Self-care in the care-giver is paramount to deal with the temporary behavioural challenges, crises management and the context of these issues. I would add that if yoga, homeopathic remedies, moderate alcohol consumption or prescription medication is required for this, then so be it!
Just one single word encapsulated his message for a successful future: HOPE. As a parent, I try not to give up on my child. I have had a few conversations with "experts" over the years who have insisted that I "should remember that due to his condition, Houdini may NEVER be able to do x, y or z." At each small milestone achieved, I remember that it may have taken months or even years but he has managed to succeed! Without hope, progress is minimal. Without self-esteem learning does not occur.
IQ is not stationary as once thought. Intelligence, in fact, alters with experience. The frequently given excuse for a vague Statement of Education is that the "needs of the autistic person change as they mature." That being the case, a flexible growth mindset in the teacher or carer may be difficult to attain but is essential for motivation towards progress, whatever that may look like.
Dr Baker quoted the great philosopher, YODA in his presentation:
"FEAR IS THE PATH TO THE DARK SIDE
FEAR LEADS TO ANGER
AMGR LEADS TO HATE
HATE LEADS TO SUFFERING ..."
Positive discipline and tolerant teaching is the way to approach challenging behaviours, avoiding confrontation and power struggles and teaching how to gain attention appropriately, exploring the triggers and developing a good preventative plan to address them.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kkhAeFI0RaU